Safe Haven Sunday: March 2-3, 2019

Frequently Asked Questions

Q. What is Safe Haven Sunday?

Safe Haven Sunday is a weekend within the liturgical calendar selected by the diocese to directly address the harms of pornography and to provide resources to support and protect individuals, marriages, and families in overcoming pornography and making their homes safe.

 

Q. Is Safe Haven Sunday an annual initiative?

Safe Haven Sunday is designed as an annual initiative to occur in the life of the diocese on a selected weekend to educate on the harms of pornography. Despite this, we have not committed to Safe Haven Sunday beyond this year. If this year’s event is as successful as we hope, we can consider continuing it in future years. If it continues, new implementation materials will be designed every year that will reflect the annual theme to assist diocesan and parish leaders with the promotion and implementation of Safe Haven Sunday.

 

Q. What is this year’s theme for Safe Haven Sunday?

This year’s theme is Equipping the Family, Safeguarding Children.

 

Q. Is Safe Haven Sunday implemented at the diocesan or parish level?

Both. This is a weekend that is initiated by the diocese, and the Bishop requests that the parishes implement this weekend. The diocese plays a leading role in the weekend, primarily by way of communicating necessary actions to implement the weekend and, at the same time, spearheading communication with the parishes and the public. The parish role is to provide communications to parishioners and implement Safe Haven Sunday. As an optional but not required component, the parishes can also provide to parishioners this year’s educational resource booklet, Equipped: Smart Catholic Parenting in a Sexualized Culture.

 

Q. What role does the Pastor/parish priest have in the implementation of Safe Haven Sunday?

This effort is designed to be led primarily by the Pastor. He will be provided all the tools to make Safe Haven Sunday a success, including homily helps, general intercessions, prayer card, bulletin blurbs and insert, as well as the opportunity to purchase educational resources to distribute to parishioners, which includes this year’s booklet, Equipped: Smart Catholic Parenting in a Sexualized Culture, which is available in both English and Spanish. There is also a free seven-day text-to-opt-in program, available in English and Spanish, that provides practical tips that adults can take to create safer digital environments. Throughout the book and resources, readers are encouraged to sign up for the seven-day text-to-opt-in program by texting “secure” to 66866. Safe Haven Sunday is designed to be successful whether the Pastor/parish priest chooses to preach on pornography or chooses not to preach on the subject, relying instead on the resources and materials to deal with the subject pastorally. Covenant Eyes has a variety of resources on their Safe Haven Sunday Implementation Page.

 

Q. Who sets the date for Safe Haven Sunday?

The Bishop sets the date for diocesan implementation. All parishes in the diocese are asked to commit to celebrate Safe Haven Sunday on the same day. Our Safe Haven Sunday is set for March 3, 2019, which is the 8th Sunday of Ordinary Time and the Sunday before Ash Wednesday.

 

Q. What are the costs to a parish with Safe Haven Sunday?

The only cost to the parish is the purchasing of the book, Equipped: Smart Catholic Parenting in a Sexualized Culture, which is $2 per book.  The official Safe Haven Sunday prayer card will be provided at no cost to the parish. The book is highly recommended but is optional. We recommend that a copy of the book and prayer card be given to each family leaving Mass on Safe Haven Sunday. If a parish is unable or unwilling to incur this expense, Safe Haven Sunday can be successfully implemented without the book. Parishes may place their book and prayer card orders by e-mail: marquis@diocesekcsj.org  The diocese will send an invoice for the books and will distribute the materials to parishes in February.

 

Q. Who is involved with the diocese in preparing Safe Haven Sunday resources and materials?

Covenant Eyes has prepared the Safe Haven Sunday concept, including the resources and materials. Covenant Eyes is a company committed to creating faith-based resources that foster the virtue of chastity and the tools to overcome pornography use and addiction. Its flagship service is Internet Accountability and Filtering. Safe Haven Sunday is one of the many resources Covenant Eyes has developed to assist U. S. dioceses and parishes to implement the USCCB’s November 2015 formal statement, Create in Me a Clean Heart: A Pastoral Response to Pornography, one step at a time.

 

Q. Are we the first diocese to implement Safe Haven Sunday?

No. The Archdiocese of New Orleans held the first Safe Haven Sunday on February 18, 2018, the 1st Sunday of Lent. The New Orleans experience was enormously successful, and that archdiocese has committed to continuing the program for the coming year. We have been in contact with the archdiocese and have confirmed its success story. In addition, it appears about 12 other dioceses, including our own, will be participating in Safe Haven Sunday in the coming year and even more the year after.

 

Q. How can I get my other questions answered as they arise?

Please contact Dino Durando with your questions. (816) 714-2371 (direct) --- durando@diocesekcsj.org

 

Timeline and Checklist for Parishes

To do now

  • Pastor informs parish of the initiative through its normal communication channels.
  • Pastor obtains copy of Equipped booklet for review (these were passed out at deanery meetings and can also be mailed upon request).
  • Determine roles and responsibilities of parish staff members and volunteer assistants:
    • Who will help with the printing and/or mailing or emailing of the introduction letter of Safe Haven Sunday from the priest to parish households?
    • Who will order copies of the book Equipped and the Prayer Cards to distribute to all parishioners on Safe Haven Sunday? (Order placed by December 21)
    • Who will make sure the bulletin blurbs and the bulletin insert are included in the parish bulletin on the designated dates?
    • Who will post information about Safe Haven Sunday on the parish webpage and/or social media?
    • Who will print the General Intercessions and make them available at the ambo for Safe Haven Sunday?
    • Who will place the Prayer Cards in the pews prior to the Vigil Mass and Sunday Masses?
    • Who will help pass out the book Equipped after the closing song of the Vigil Mass and Sunday Masses? etc.

To do in December

  • Parish representative places order for copies of Equipped: Smart Catholic Parenting in a Sexualized Culture and Safe Haven Sunday Prayer Cards (suggested one per family of each). Please email marquis@diocesekcsj.org by December 21stand indicate how many of each item you would like to order (prayer cards are provided at no cost; Equipped booklets are $2 each).

To do in February

  • Parish representative prints and mails/e-mails introduction letter of Safe Haven Sunday from the pastor to parish households (or creates bulletin insert).
  • Parish representative ensures bulletin announcement and insert are included in the parish bulletin on the designated dates
  • Parish representative posts information about Safe Haven Sunday on parish website and social media.

To do just prior to Safe Haven Sunday Masses

  • General intercessions are printed and made available at ambo.
  • Prayer cards placed in pews prior to Vigil Mass and replenished as necessary for Sunday Masses.
  • Volunteers pass out copies of Equipped book to each family after all Masses.

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Ways to Continue the Conversation

 

  • Host an education event for parents or students at your parish or school like the Making Our Home Safe (My House Apostolate I need to add this after I take care of details with Michael C.) or Be Alert (Stop Trafficking Project)   http://www.stoptraffickingproject.com/bealert.html

 

 

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Resources to learn more . . .

www.protectyoungeyes.com

Educational videos for parents to watch with their children and videos for parents (Bi-lingual, Spanish and English).  School curriculum – Digital Citizenship, videos on how to set parental controls on devices, and more.

 

www.myhousekcsj.org

Local resources, including helpline phone number, blog articles, links to helpful videos and education for parents and strugglers.  Sign-up for covenant eyes from the link on this website provides a small amount of funding to the My House effort locally.

 

www.covenanteyes.com

Learn about Covenant Eyes software and find access to education materials like Protect Young Eyes and more.

 

Coverage of the Safe Haven Sunday held in New Orleans:

www.ncregister.com/daily-news/creating-a-safe-haven-from-the-pornography-pandemic